It is important to balance the duties between parents while creating healthy boundaries that fit your family’s needs. Your relationship has changed, but your responsibilities as parents have not. As parents, you share in the physical care, financial care, and in nurturing the emotional well-being of your children.
Equal parenting doesn’t always mean that your parenting time, expenses and decision making is shared exactly fifty-fifty. What is crucial is that you both have responsibility, accountability and are equally involved in your children’s lives. With co-parenting, you work together as parenting partners and balance the duties in a way that works for all of you. For example, if one parent makes more money, that parent may contribute more to the shared expenses. Or, if one parent has a more flexible job schedule, that parent may take on more of the drop off and pick up responsibilities. Imagine having that level of support and flexibility!
Boundaries are as equally important. Your relationship has changed, and you will need to work together to set boundaries clarifying how it has changed in a way that makes you both comfortable.
Children inherently want their parents to be together, so establishing healthy boundaries will also help your children to understand how the relationship has changed, set expectations and assist in balancing their emotions. It will also allow you and your co-parent to maintain your own personal lives and personal identities.
“Be aware of wonder. Live a balanced life — learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.” – Robert Fulgham