You’ve likely been through a lot. Mistakes have been made. Words have been said that can’t be taken back. When relationships end, there is often hurt, animosity, tension, and conflict due to a wide variety of reasons. As valid as they may be, it is of vital importance to not let those feelings cloud your judgment, especially regarding the well-being of your children.
In order to sincerely commit to an open, honest and trusting co-parenting relationship, you need to accept your differences and let go of the past. Separation may be the end of one relationship, but it should not end any relationships for the children involved. It is also the start of a new relationship between you and your co-parent.
The first step to starting a successful co-parenting relationship is to Clean the Slate. This doesn’t mean internalizing bad feelings just to maintain appearances, but making a conscious decision to put the past behind you and to start anew. You are parenting partners, equals in your children’s lives. This will mean biting your tongue at times, and putting your own personal feelings aside for the health and happiness of your child.
“You have a clean slate every day you wake up. You have a chance every single morning to make that change and be the person you want to be. You just have to decide to do it. Decide today’s the day. Say it: this is going to be my day.” – Brendon Burchard