It’s no secret that communication is challenging. As co-parents, it’s critical in order to ensure you are working together collaboratively as parents.
Good communication will help manage and balance the child’s two homes, help to develop trust, and it will allow you to comfortably talk about school, health and other important topics to maintain mutual understanding of the children’s current and future needs.
There are a few rules that are non-negotiable:
#1 – Adult matters shouldn’t be discussed in the presence of children
#2 – Listen to understand, not just to respond
#3 – Communicate honestly in a timely manner
If you are struggling with face-to-face communication due to conflict, personal schedules, etc., you can begin with other forms, such as video, phone, email or text. Written communications will be more difficult to read tone and non-verbal cues, but it can be a very effective method. It may also be helpful to begin your partnership as if you were in a formal business relationship, similar to if you were communicating with your child’s teachers or babysitters.
Communication is a skill that everyone can improve upon. And if you and your parenting partner have had communication problems in the past, you will need to identify the past pitfalls in order to better communicate with each other. It requires patience, but the value of good communication has no price tag. It is invaluable.
“If your relationship has enough trust, honesty and understanding, it should never require promises, terms and conditions.” – Nishan Panwar