When you have children, you owe it to them to be the role models they need and deserve in order to develop into happy, healthy, and confident individuals. In a society where relationships have become easily disposable, you have the opportunity to help break the cycle of separation by showing them forgiveness, love, and the importance of family relationships.
Both parents play a very important role in their child’s life. It is not a competition, it is a collaboration. And, in the end, it doesn’t matter who ‘tried harder’, who ‘sacrificed more’, or who ‘deserved credit’. What matters is that your children are in an environment where they can thrive.
There will be times your children call for you, and there will be times they call for your co-parent. That is normal, and it’s important that they are comfortable in doing so. You will go through tough times personally, where you’ll need your co-parent to step up and carry more weight, and there will be times when they’ll need you to. Being able to trust in and rely on your co-parent is a great feeling.
Partnership Common Goal
It must be a partnership, where you focus on your common goal: working together to effectively manage the challenges that come with raising a child. You may not love your ex anymore, you may not even like them very much. That should not prevent you from seeing the value you both contribute to your child. You can still manage schedules together, help each other out, and support each other in encouraging and modeling appropriate behaviors. If you can focus on the benefit to your child, it is possible!
“If you can control your behavior when everything around you is out of control, you can model for your children a valuable lesson in patience and understanding…and snatch an opportunity to shape character.” – Jane Clayson Johnson